Men Really Are From Mars!

Dating may very well be the single most frustrating activity around. 

Okay, parenting is.  But add dating on top of parenting and it's a wonder I don't live in a padded room.

About 5 months ago, I reconnected with an old friend from high school.  I call him Dream Guy.  When we were teenagers, Dream Guy had a colossal crush on me.  We were always friends, but that was it.  Fast forward 16 years, add marriage, kids, divorce (or death of a spouse in my case), and a few boyfriends/girlfriends...

When we started spending time together, both Dream Guy and I had just gotten out of some serious dating relationships.  We were spending time together at least two nights a week, in true long-lost friend fashion.  We talked about EVERYTHING!  My family, my marriage, my kids, dating experiences I've had over the years, his marriage, his daughter, his family, and his experiences with dating and being single.  It was great!  There was no pressure, no expectations.  We were old friends catching up and having a great time.

Then came complications...

It was clear to both of us that there was more than friendship brewing.  While I was fine with that idea, Dream Guy was a bit frightened by it.  The great part was, we talked openly about it.

Our time together has always been very comfortable and very easy.  The frustrating part is, I haven't talked to Dream Guy in almost two weeks.  The last time we talked was a Saturday night.  I had just gotten off of work (I closed at the bar) and Dream Guy had called.  He was at a party his younger brother was having and he was sad that I wasn't there with him.  He said he was having fun, but he missed my laugh and wished I could have come. 

While it's very true that I also missed him (and do now), he had never said such things to me.  I told him that those were very nice things to hear and that I looked forward to seeing him very soon.  We haven't talked since then.  We've texted back and forth a few times, but no talk.

HOW FRUSTRATING!!!

I'm not one to be pushy and I am certainly not about to chase a man.  But honestly, what do I do in this situation?!?!  I am truly ok with just being friends.  I am seriously in like with Dream Guy, but I can live with just friends.  I realize that we are both very busy people, I just wish there was a way to hear the sound of his voice and know where we're at.  Is that insane?  Is it asking too much?  Any suggestions?