Thursday, May 26, 2011

Busted? - Lessons Learned From My Parents

Mama’s Losin’ It


Today I am linking up with the infamous Mama Kat for the pretty much world famous Writer's Workshop. To see the prompts, click here.

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It was 9:00 on Sunday morning. I was fighting off sleep, as I hadn't been to bed yet. My dad would be leaving for church soon. If I fell asleep, I would lose my window of opportunity.

Church began at 9:30. I knew I would have an hour once it began.

At promptly 9:30 a.m. I picked up the phone and dialed.

"Hello?" a groggy voice said on the other end.

"Ma?" I asked. "Can you come get me?"

"Sis?" she said.

"Yeah, Ma. Can you come get me?'

I could tell from her voice that she wasn't quite registering my request.
"Get you from where?"

She was very puzzled.

I was 14 years-old and when my parents went to bed the night before, I was tucked safely in bed... The morning light had found me across town, in the kitchen of a boy I went to school with. His parents had left town for the weekend, and although he was supposed to be staying at someone else's home, he had decided to host a small get-together in their absence.

Disbelieving I was where I said I was, my mother went down to double check my room. Shocked and scared, it wasn't long before her car pulled up outside my friend's home.

Looking back, I realize how stupid I was. It was the middle of winter, in the dead of the night, in Minnesota. I walked for miles across town, crossing fields, highways, and a lake to get to my friend's. As a mother, my mind races with thoughts of all of the terrible things that could have happened to me.

But at 14, I was invincible.

At 14, my parents were foolish for worrying about me.

At 14, I had all of the answers and had the world by the horns.

I got grounded for sneaking out. I got grounded for a VERY long time.

And I was pissed.

Looking back, I realize that my parents probably weren't as hard on me as they should have been.

Looking back, I know that ultimately, they were just happy I was safe.

As I face the daily struggles of raising a difficult child with special needs, I try really hard to remember how grown up I though I was at her age. I know I need to give her some freedom to make her own mistakes. I just pray that I am able to parent her with the grace my parents used with me.

12 comments:

thesedaysofmine.com said...

I'm glad that getting grounded was the worst thing that happened to you!
As we get older, we realize what we put our parents through, don't we?
Visiting from Mama Kat's - I also chose this prompt today.

bigguysmama said...

Hmmmm sounds like something I would've done back then! I hope I can be a parent like that too!

~Mimi

Lex the mom said...

It is reflected in my own children's point of view. They know everything, I know nothing. Now I know what my parents went through with me.

I have been in very similar situations in my life. & why did mom always tattle on me? Sheesh, we could have been so much tighter if she'd have just been my friend, not always my mother. ;)

Life with Kaishon said...

Isn't it crazy? When I look back on how bratty I was I am just amazed... : )

Anti-Supermom said...

Me too, I feel so bratty for the things I've said and done to my parents. Ugh~

j-tony said...

I hear ya sister. I've got so many stories. I only hope my clowns don't put me through half the stuff I put my parents through.

singedwingangel said...

OH wow at 14?? OH wait umm yeah I was skipping school in the middle of Norfolk Virginia at 14 yeah lol.. I am glad you were ok and that she didn't beat ya to death, mine would have..

Dysfunctional Mom said...

I kind of want to wring your neck myself! I have a 15 year old daughter and just the thought of her doing that - I think I'll go wring her neck right now! LOL

Losing Brownies said...

I totally look back on the crap I did as a teenager and wonder how I even made it in one piece!

kisatrtle said...

I continue to remain amazed on a regular basis that I survived my teen years. Glad you did too

gin said...

I shudder at my shenanigans as a teen and often think that I would kick my own ass if I was my own mom. For some reason, she never did. It makes me wonder how I will *truly* react when my little boy pulls a stunt like that one...

Paulette said...

Oh my! Yeah, as kids we really do think we can do it all and know it all then we become parents and a light clicks on and we're like Oh! now i get it!

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