I remember middle school fondly. I know that existing deep in it's trenches is complicated. I can still remember trying to be the person everyone wants you to be.
To the girls, you are the funny, outgoing girl. You introduce them to the boys and make the conversations less awkward because you know exactly what the boys are all about. To the boys, you are the girl who is different. You like the same things they like and you're easy to be around. And to your parents, you're the smart child. You bring home excellent grades and are always told the world is yours for the taking.
You wish that everyone knew what you were really feeling, what you were really like. You wish the girls invited you to slumber parties. You long to share beauty tips and talk about the boys. You wish the boys treated you like a girl. You wish they thought you were pretty instead of thinking of you as one of the guys. You long for one of them to ask you to be his girlfriend instead of asking for advice on how to ask someone else out. And you wish your parents accepted what you wanted to do. You wish their dreams for you matched with yours.
As a mother, I know now that the most important thing I didn't do at 13 was be true to me. Social pressures cause you to bend and alter so much of who you are. Rediscovering that person in your 30's is scary and long over due. Be proud of who you are, be proud of what you like, be vocal about what you want. The worst that could happen is someone tells you no. Being true to you is the best chance you can take in life!
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