So why is it when a mother says she wants to live her life for herself, people immediately jump to call her selfish?
Years ago, when my children were very small, I had a family member chastise other family members for watching my children so I could go to Las Vegas for a four day weekend. One of my best friends from childhood was getting married. I was in the wedding.
Said family member remarked that when I became a mother, I gave up the right to live my life for myself. From the day my first child came into the world, my life was all about motherhood.
Did I mention said family member has a 20 year-old son he hasn't seen in almost 15 years?
And he is giving parenting advice...
If I have learned anything in the last ten years of parenting alone (and therapy) it's that my kids and I like each other better when we have breaks from one another.
I have also learned that my kids like me better - and I like myself better - when I am happy with the choices I make and the way I spend my time.
My recent quest for my happy place has led me down a path of self discovery. Since writing my ten commandments I have been identifying ways to apply them directly to my life.
Commandment number two - live my life for me - has forced me to identify the things I have been doing in my life because I am "supposed to" or because it's "what I should be doing". It has been an amazing discovery to learn how much I do every day isn't because I want it to be a part of my life.
In my life and in my home, March will be a month of cleanising.
We're only given one life.
I'm going to live mine for me.