As many of you know, I am a widow. I have been raising my children independently for 10 years. When they were younger, they had a lot of questions about their dad and wondering about that side of the family.
*For the record, my husband was abused by his mother as a child. She abandoned him at the age of 13 and left him to be a ward of the state. At the time of his death, they were still estranged. My children have never met the paternal side of their family. Neither have I.*
Anywho... The other day, I wrote about my children's Christmas Wish Lists. In the comments, a mom wrote that for Christmas, one of her children asked to meet their dad. While my situation and hers are very different, I could still relate with the feeling of helplessness when it comes to not being able to be both parents.
While my children don't know the details surrounding their father's death, I have told them both stories of how excited he was for them to be born, how happy being a dad made him, and other happy stories for them to feel closer to their dad. While I don't condone lying to my kids, I try to keep from them the ugly details.
This mom and I emailed back and forth a bit and discussed different options for handling her particular situation, but my heart is still aching for her and her sweet boy. So now I turn to you, my bloggy friends. After all, what's the use of this amazing community if we can't provide one another support?
What words of advice do you have for this mom? Are you or have you been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How can she be honest with her son without breaking his heart?